I Have The Right To Be- Soul Code

Working with clients who have had major trauma, in this, as well as in past lives, I came across a thread that seems to be common for all, and this thread is fear of life and never-ending need to justify their existence. The most common cure for this fear is changing this belief into ' I have the right to be '. However, very rarely I manage to make clients to tackle this belief because there are number of others, related to the individual trauma, that should be addressed before because they are easier to identify and it is easier for clients to accept them. A few times I tried it, but it wasn't always successful, not because belief was wrong but because it involves so much pain, that takes time to integrate. For example, one client, barely managed to say out loud this sentence because she actually cannot believe in it. Her guides gave her a task to look in the mirror for a specified amount of time and repeat this sentence, but she didn't do it and a physical problem that brought her to the session, and which interfered with her work (obviously not enough) continued to exist, as a reminder.

This scheme is common with victims of family violence, child abuse, incest and any trauma that has to do with early abandonment, neglect and rejection (physical and emotional), and any violence (refers to psychological violence too). As a rule, in past lives there were similar stories of abuse, violent and sudden death, torture, sacrifice, martyrdom. When we stumble upon hidden belief that we do not have a right to life, we are often dealing with clients who have irresolvable life, existential problems. Money, work, love, family, home-nothing seems to work. Of course, we're looking for causal event, not a basic belief, so mostly we first work on sense of guilt that client carry because of that event, and forgiveness, to oneself and the other actors because without it, the client is unable to understand that what one is hiding from oneself is a belief that you do not have the right to live. As this is something that clients very successfully hide from themselves, it can't come from me if client has not yet identified it, and is not willing to accept it. Why? Our Soul, when trauma of any kind is happening, leaves our body in order for us to survive the event. Our brain is blocking the flow of emotions, and at first the instinctive part of ourselves, and later mental, assumes control, to protect us. The Soul after the event comes back, but if a traumatic condition is prolonged, if it regularly happens and there is no possibility of getting out of it, such as in the case of family violence, we begin to function in that pattern, the Soul gets out and comes back, and we act as though nothing had happened. In fact, we never had a chance to mentally process the event and let our instincts to tell us that we need to run, because there is nowhere to go, so instead of escaping with the body, the Soul runs away. What happens is that in fact even later when it all ended long time ago, we are never completely there, because the Soul is never comfortable in the body that suffers, and great disconnect happens, or a hole. Sometimes something else moves in there instead of our own energy, as I got a chance to see. That's what happens with children whose mothers did not want them, children victims of family violence, incest, including peer bullying, but also with adults, victims of war, rape, women molested by their husbands, or anyone, but even men abused by the heads of companies, gangs, spiritual leaders, or any authority figure. Mostly these are situations where you just can't leave, but a similar stamp can be seen in trauma caused by violence, other, caused by some sudden situations and natural force, have a different signature and can even provoke (not at first) a large personal power in order to overcome it. These first ones disempower and have negative effects on self-worth and personal power.

Thus, when you leave your body a bit, at the time of trauma, this kind of defensive mechanism is quite legitimate because it helps you, but when it is used extensively, like every one, it starts to harm, and ultimately takes over your life, gradually pushing the truth about event, and you either forget that it happened, or you believe that you deserved it and that you are actually doing something bad if you tell someone about it (abusers are usually very manipulative). And since you cannot do anything else for yourself, you continue to leave your body whenever something does not suit you or resembles a situation where you can be punished, insulted or abandoned. And when you are not completely there then you cannot fully manifest what you want for yourself. Chances are actually, that you do not even know what you really want for yourself, because the only thing you’ve ever been doing was surviving and thinking how to survive. And when you are not clear on what you want, or you think it is unachievable, the chances are that you materialize someone else’s reality, that is imposed on you, either because it suits someone because it is his creation, or because he thinks that this is best for you cause it’s always been so. The point is that you have chosen from fear and wrong beliefs, not a deep inner calling, because there is no place for heart calling where there is survival. Not because you do not hear it, but because in the survival mode, the first impulse is to be obedient, not to express yourself, so that someone will not hurt you, but in fact you suppress your needs. Even when you express yourself in such difficult circumstances, you have already learned well that you will be punished, attacked, and you make compromises with yourself mostly. The truth is, in these circumstances you will never be tapped on your shoulder when you show yourself, and in this or that way, you must learn to suppress your needs because the abuser is trying to show you that you are opposing at your own damage. Sometimes this behavior can be conditioned through generations, as is the case with families where there is family abuse. The abuser was mostly first a victim, from a family member mostly, and already has learned a scheme, and in our family stories, we usually choose those who can play out those roles and have the same mark (in order to solve it in reality, but this is another topic) as we do. This behavior does not have to be related solely to childhood, I am not directing this story to a wounded inner child, it can also be culturally conditioned, as is the case with countries with frequent wars, poverty and transitional periods (like ours for example), because they cause trauma, which most often remains unprocessed. This is called post traumatic stress syndrome, and is most common for war veterans, victims of war and victims of domestic violence. Psyche with this type of untreated trauma can function seemingly intact for many years, until at one point there is a breakdown that at first glance has nothing to do with the initial event that caused the trauma (this also applies to traumas from the past lives). Victims of violence can very often begin to behave violently themselves, not noticing it because they are either defending themselves or they do not consider it to be violence because they are milder than what they have experienced themselves (for example, they are not physically aggressive but are verbally or manipulative because they used to avoid danger and get what they want in that way). The vicious circle is enslaving, and thus it works, violence energy can actually be long lasting for itself and from past lives and it is difficult to clean it because those who once were in an extended situation of violence are not able to receive, since they mostly received only fists in the face , so they are unconsciously constantly in the guards of the next one. The victim carries a rage and a sense of guilt, and becomes a bully (to someone else or to himself), if it is uncured, it is followed by guilt again, stagnation, again becoming a victim, etc., etc. Of course, this can be cured, and hypnotherapy is not the only method that allows it, and such stories also require psychotherapeutic sessions as this must be talked about, as the main problem for victimes is not having a voice. In addition, this suppressed pain must first come out in order to give space for your Soul, and this takes a lot of time and various support is needed. A lot of awareness and readiness to deal with these abuses and the pain caused by it is necessary for you to first recognize yourself that in those moments you actually did not know how to live, that you lived the only way you knew how, and most often you did not even want to, so somehow you learned that you do not have the right to live, or at least you cannot live the life you want, cause you struggle for it all the time, before you can understand what the belief 'I have the right to be' really means. In my experience those clients who have undergone psychotherapy for a longer period of time, and dealth with some kind of self-reflection and self-help techniques, are better in handling this, but still changing the habit requires energy and a lot of exercise and time, before showing visible results (I'm not just talking about repeating affirmations now).

Now, how do I know all this so well? Apart from being an expert, who is also psychologically trained not solely by reading popular literature, and also having worked with foster home children (without parental care and who were generally all abused) for a few years, I have observed them closely. And I know this personally too. When I got this suggestion, this belief,from my mentor I was not surprised mentally because I worked devotedly on many of my traumas, but it was very difficult for me to integrate it emotionally, and sometimes it still appears in situations of severe crises and great changes, because the physical body has not yet fully absorbed it. I did not understand well what he meant, for God's sake, when it is very obvious that I do exist! Namely, I am also a victim of domestic violence. My father was an alcoholic almost all his life, and very violent, both physically and mentally. Mental habits have not left him yet. I was scared of him all my life because I watched the horrific scenes of physical violence against my mother mostly, and less often my brother. I did not experience it myself because my parents divorced when I was a child, but I was in the emotional blackmail game that my parents played with each other, and therefore I felt very much psychological abuse, and various punishments when I simply left this situation. Actually, I only physically left, I could not do it emotionally. Psychological violence was in the form of denial of help (when needed most),no communication, blackmail, threats, humiliation, gloom and doom usual stuff. When my father finally healed himself from alcohol (not alcoholism though), his wife continued sending hate to me because she had the same experiences herself. I spent my entire youth working on myself to understand this kind of behavior, and myself in it, the schemes that built it, and find the causes (of course, I regressed the subject and those stories have already been told), and everyone involved, and on forgiveness. And my mother was someone who could not understand my energy, or connect with it even while I was in her womb, my brother was ill himself, so special attention was mainly directed to him, so I was on my own and worked a lot until I came to hypnotherapy and to the point where I can actually do something with you. In all of this, I have encountered great misunderstanding from my environment, and also ‘professionals’, because I did not play by some shut up and put up unwritten rules and roles. What I saw was that even the "experts" did not know how to respond adequately to such stories because they cause a lot of discomfort in them, so it ends with the fact that you actually feel guilty for causing this discomfort. And you're mostly feeling very lonely because you are left to yourself trying to cure that part of yourself that makes so much trouble for everyone, as most people would usually hand a hot potatoe to someone else. So, by now, you are already feeling guilty for being alive, now imagine what all this can bring about when you turn to people who do not have a shred of empathy in themselves. Behind this, mainly stands their inability to confront their own emotions, or their own wounded parts of themselves with similar, or maybe even same, pain. To someone who was a victimit is not helpful to say that he should stop being a victime, or stop crying (chances are that he often heard this from the abuser too), and that's not what he needs, because he knows it already. You need to acknowledge him and this pain and listen to his story as those who are marginalized very often do not have a voice or express themselves in some strange ways. And embrace means a lot more than that, as well as referring him to a professional. So, until I did not get to regression, I worked a lot with various psychologists, self-help groups, literature, energy work, work on an inner child, spiritual work, plant work, meditations, transformations, ceremonies, reading cards, coffee cups, beans, sky and stars. Because my life needed to be cured, because it hurts, so when it hurts it must be sick, and if it's sick, it's rotten, so it needs to be repaired. I spent my whole life thinking that something was wrong with me and trying to understand myself and the way I function, especially since I was completely normal in the whole situation, and even some psychologists reffered to me as an example of a resilient personality (that was not helpful or gratifying, believe me, because they did not understand the root of this resilience). And I was very positive about my spirituality I was tapping into that and my spiritual talents that actually took over, this is the only thing that saved me but it only led to even greater confusion in those who needed to understand and help me (this is now the story of hybrid Souls and has already been told ). Nobody told me that I was not sick, that there was nothing to cure, but that in fact I was never given permission to be free to be who I am. And all this over and over again until I came to my Soul. Or until she came to me. Pulling away from what was no longer a safe place for me, and what I interpreted as aggressive, I unconsciously, labeled life as uncertain and insecure place, and I learned to talk to my spiritual guides and see things very well, and never really talk about it and to quietly work on myself, because I had to adjust to the unadaptable (shadow work, some would say). Although this is no disadvantage for me, it was, for my entire life, because I was always 'Different'. And so, this work led me to a cave and in one small niche was carved 'I have the right to be'. It's always been there, whenever emotions emerge, whenever somebody hurts me, when someone who I love kicks my butt, when they humiliate me, destroy me, discredit me, when they enter my energy space, spread rumors, when there is no money, when I do not have a home , when nothing seems to be going right, and injustice is everywhere; The key to the door through which I have to go through was always, this code, 'I have the right to be'. My past lives that brought me here were also full of pain, suffering, dying by torture, mutilation, sacrifice, stoning, persecution and exile, because I wanted to be who I am and always a strong willed woman who therefore had to be humiliated and destroyed. So I learned to fear myself, my own abilities, and to withdraw from life, and I not to give myself the permission to just be.

I know that many of you can find themselves in these words but perhaps for entirely different reasons, but I would ask you not to use this affirmation to work with others, at least until you explore what really lies behind it and where their disconnect is and know the whole story, because it will have no effect , as there were none for me.

What does this actually mean? When you say to yourself, 'I have the right to be', and in fact believe in it with your whole being, you give the right to your energy to be fully present, here and now, in this body, on this planet, in this dimension, in this incarnation. You give the permission to your spirit to be here. Now, whether the conflict and disconnect was between your body and your Soul, or your emotional body and your Soul, it is individual, and that's what needs to be explored. Also, this awareness raises a large amount of pain, and sometimes you cannot deal with it alone, and you need support, and guidance. Unless you've devoted your whole life to repairing your broken self. For example, when somebody tells me that he has raised above emotions, because he is not from here, or he is so spiritual, I know he is carrying a lot of suppressed pain and disappointment, which he does not want to face, especially if somehow this raising above did not include anger and frustration ( very human and down to earth emotions, by the way, that I myself often feel too). In fact, in this way, you deny existence to a very important part of yourself and it will find a way to bite you in the butt (probably through your body). Because, as long as we are here our body cannot be without emotions, our glands made sure of that, and they are a signpost, they tell us that we are not satisfied with something and that a change is needed, at the very least. Believe it or not, here is also applicable 'I have the right to be'. The logical direction of raising above emotions is the state of love, at any moment. Love is a glue that binds our world together, and it creates, maintains even you, through your Soul. And by avoiding emotions, you're actually saying that you want to avoid love, so you can avoid it hurting you, while at the same time, paradoxically, you exist precisely thanks to what you are in conflict with.

That's how affirmation I have a right to be ' turns out to be a complex issue, and that's why I say it is a code, a liberation code. Listening to my clients and their experiences of violence, incest, domestic violence, rejection, loss, rape, inadaptability, hybrid souls, and various ways of marginalization, and all other similar stories that they carry from past lives, as well as looking at all the possible ways in which these stories are trying to find their way to their consciousness, it seemed to me that there is the same patchwork underneath it all. ' I have a right to be ' is the patchwork of your Soul, that is trying in all these ways to be here, to set you free, and explain to you, that it's okay to trust it. It tells you it's okay to feel, it's ok if you don't know, it's ok to be sad and a bit of a mess, because that's how she is trying to come out and all those knots are actually making you feel alive. Because while you are here you will feel all range of emotions, these ones, but also happiness and joy and love too. The only thing that is important to Soul is only for you to exist, because without it you actually, can't, so maybe it's high time to get to know one another. All of the above are labor pains because the Soul is trying to be born here, where it belongs, and it belongs to you, and you belong to her. She was trying to tell you she belongs here, on this planet, at the present moment, in here and now, in this incarnation that you live, because this is what you came here for, for the sake of this awakening within you.

As far as I'm concerned, ' I have a right to be ' is a code that combines matter and spirit, and proves that there is no difference between the two. Because if you believe that you have no right to exist, nothing you believe to be sacred can’t exist either. And you will be served experiences that will serve to this belief-difficulties, disease, near-death experiences and defying it, energy attacks and so on, because they're actually just in your service, in some distorted way. Everything and everyone has the right to be, no matter what you think about it. There is a reason for all existence, even you wouldn't be here, without a reason. And that denial of the existence has a reason too. This reason is in you, you just have to search for it.

Disclaimer: I hope you understand that I am writing about myself and my experiences because I cannot talk about intimate processes of my clients. In addition, my spiritual leadership insisted that I start to talk about this because essentially, I have a story that although painful, can empower and heal, because I did it all by myself and, with the help of my Soul so I have every right to talk about the Soul. Also by hiding this I am again ignoring the part of myself that has the right to be and that is actually the strongest part of me. I'm not just the part that hurts and can’t cope, I am mostly the one that lifts me up too. And so are you. I hope this will be of benefit to you, because believe me, it took a lot of courage to strip naked in this way.