Alchemical Transformation of the Wound Between Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine - Divine Union

WORKSHOP ANNOUNCEMENT

For some time now, I have felt the need to talk and work on how we approach relationships

and partnerships, in general, but especially feminine masculine relationships. In an age when female energy is on the rise, and when it is necessary to integrate it, it is necessary to work on the healing and integration of male energy and to help male energy to cope with energies that have not been present for so long, that they seem so unknown to all of us. However, it is even more important to deal with the mutual relation between these two energies because without their balanced union, nothing in the Universe is in harmony. Although it seems, and has been presented to us for a long time, that these energies are a combination of duality and in some way opposed to each other, at best they are compatible, it is not so. Male and female energy are the trinity of creation and existence, because in their harmony and union a new type of energy is created. In fact, this third energy represents a space, a container, a vessel and a dynamic that maintains and unites these two energies and enables their development. Everything in this world is expressed through the trinity, starting with inhaling, holding the breath, to exhaling. With a series of such examples, we can understand how one and how the other energy works, but there remains that space in between, that holding of breath, which we have not been aware of for a long time, that is not familiar to us or is dysfunctional. Many of us take relationships for granted, or act like they're playing cards, playing a game of their own. We do everything to be someone who leads that game, who controls it, manages it, wins it. And if we are not already in that position, then we bluff, we pretend to have cards and positions we don't have, we lie, we cheat. Especially when we find ourselves in a position where we are vulnerable, and from which we would prefer to escape. At least most of us. This is how it is in all relationships, not only in partner relationships, but we generally behave the same way there as well. This story of ours is not focused on partnerships per se and the check list you need to tick to have a successful relationship. The truth is that such a checklist does not exist, no matter how much they tell you otherwise. This story is about sacred union, sacred connections, or conscious relationships, which are actually something that requires a lot of work and healing of the rift, a wound between the divine masculine and feminine energies. Therefore, it is not based only on awakening and healing one or the other. Because it already happens by itself, and we have had such scenarios so far in various periods of history, where with the rise of one, there is an imbalance of relations. A sacred relationship, or a balanced relationship, is not something that is present often, and it is not for everyone. Not everyone is ready to go from the heart to the head, and work on their wounds, and then the same for the other person, and then the same for the energy of the relationship. Although this was the norm once upon a time, it has not been so for a long time. First of all, because it requires deep self-knowledge, self-acceptance, and honesty at all times. To yourself and your partner. Instead of hiding the cards, they are placed on the table right at the start and everything is open. Be honest, how many of you have had people just disappear when you do this (of any gender)? Or do they just take advantage of it because they take that vulnerability and openness as weakness, and disappear again at some point, leaving you hurt? And how many of you are ready to lay down all your hopes, fears, petty thoughts and jealousies, all your envy and forging plans, and all other imperfections in front of your partner? How many of you are ready to pledge the truth? The other person should do the same, and this too should also be matched and integrated. Most of us have some little door ready for escape in some hidden corner of our mind. In a relationship like this, a sacred, conscious union, it just can't work. In fact, the relationship does not work in that case. No relationship will work unless we are completely and unreservedly honest with each other and ourselves. And then we go into games, because we think that's how it's going to work. For anything to work, certain alchemic processes of transformation must take place. In relationships where we figure out how to outsmart someone, overpower or hide something, no alchemy happens. Alchemy involves changing one form into another. In relationships, this is the dynamic between two people. That dynamic can be caused by conditioning that they have individually gone through, but also by experiences and dynamics that energies remember from past lives. That dynamic has become a form of habit for individuals, but also a form of relating between two people. The liveliness that appears at the beginning begins to wane at some point, and both or one become more or less unaware of their patterns of behavior. Or they are unconscious at the start and the relationship starts to make them aware of it, at some point, which can be very uncomfortable for some. The reality is that it takes continuous conscious attention and effort to keep a relationship alive and conscious. Even for people who are otherwise aware and working on themselves, this can be very challenging because it is completely different when you gain insights by yourself, when and how it suits you, in relationships there is not always room for evasive behavior and postponing the moment of insight. That is, there is, but even for that there is a lesson, and a price, and then it is no longer a conscious or sacred relationship. Many are not ready to make a constant effort to keep something alive, especially a relationship. This in turn has a devastating effect on our spiritual life as well, and that is why many spiritual people avoid relationships, which actually accelerate the most and are the best container for maintaining spirituality, for two conscious people. What needs to change in relationships is the way, the form of interaction between partners, dynamic. But also between the relationship between our inner male and female energies. There needs to be a healing of that interaction wound, since that very interaction became a split at some point. In order for an alchemical transformation to take place in a relationship, there needs to be space for it (which is mostly absent in today's type of relationships). And that space creates a sense of security in a relationship with someone, and acceptance of oneself and one's partner, as well as acceptance and validation, being valued by the partner. Honestly analyze your relationships, or partner relationship, how much do you really feel safe, secure in them, and how important, appreciated are you? If you don't feel that way, it's important to talk about those feelings of insecurity, unsafety, danger and where you feel them, and about that lack of attention and appreciation from your partner. If that is not possible, this kind of alchemy is not possible, it will not happen, and you have a kind of interest based relationship, or a false relationship, a compromise not a conscious relationship. In relationships, in order to have an alchemical reaction, three elements are needed: something to transform (yourself, habitual behavior patterns in interactions) and a container, a vessel that will provide space for it (the safety net of the relationship itself, if you feel safe in it). The third element is energy that will trigger a reaction, and there is always plenty of that in relationships. It is the dynamics of our attitude towards each other (neuroses, hopes, fears, desires). In a conscious relationship, all of this is brought to the surface, called to presence when the energy of the dynamic arises instead of resorting to evasive behavior. What do you usually do when it gets too hot for your taste, or when you feel something you don't want to feel, when you become vulnerable? It is important that you admit this to yourself first, and only then will you be able to admit it to someone else. This is a moment of radical honesty that revives first you, then the relationship. Honesty leads to insight. With insight comes hope for awareness, and with awareness comes change. Of youself, and the relationship. That change sometimes requires you to fly to the other side, or to some new level, and for that you always need something to push you, if not catapult you. It actually always happens, unfortunately mostly because something doesn't work anymore, gets lost or breaks, or you get hurt. This can also prevent you from flying. In a conscious relationship, in which an alchemical transformation takes place, you get that energy by an honest, conscious analysis of the dynamics in which you are. When something comes up that we want to hide, some dirt, we usually think that we are not doing something right because everyone tends to show their beautified, filtered side and use avoidance behavior. In fact, when this appears it means you are doing everything right because what needs to be transformed is coming to the surface. That's why I call this kind of conscious relationship a sacred relationship, because it actually means that we make something whole again, and bring awareness. When we make something whole, we heal (I'm not talking about healing in conventional terms), we are actually in a conscious but also sacred act. In relationships, where there is a mutual feeling of safety, security, sincerity and importance, we can forge a new being, first of all a new self, and then also something else new (being or project). Primarily, our new self that we forge in a conscious relationship is more sincere, conscious and free, i.e. better, than the one that entered into such a relationship.

I emphasize that we are only creating space, opening the way to such a union. There are no manuals for how to be in a relationship, especially not for conscious, sacred relationships. There is little guidance and example for that. The path of spirituality has traditionally been the path of the loner, for reasons already mentioned. But something has changed and it wasn't always like that, and it's time to remember the experiences and knowledge from that era. Some of us still have vivid memories of great loves with our soulmates, and we've been waiting for centuries for the time to come to surface what we always knew was possible. Solitude is sometimes necessary in sacred relationships, but you no longer have to take the road less taken alone. We realized that male energy cannot grow spiritually without female energy, and that is why it has been manipulated for a long time, but... But, we cannot rise without one another, that is we can but only up to certain levels, alchemy happens in the vessel of relationships, and at some point we need to reach out to that another us who has fallen behind to help rise, or we will keep coming back and repeat the lessons until we figure it out. There are more and more examples of couples who choose to walk the path of deification together, hand in hand, through heaven and hell, with highs where suddenly things become crystal clear, and through lows, dark nights of the soul, or psychological death, where it is difficult to see one's own feet while you walk, but you can always feel someone's presence. In those moments, some primal force appears and starts pulling you. And in order for it to appear in a relationship, the holy trinity is needed, not a manual - mutual security, psychological honesty and acceptance, and valuing the beloved. Of course, I'm not a relationship expert, I'm far from it. Nobody is. But I am an expert in transformations of various kinds. And I know how it feels when you want to run away from something rather than deal with your own or other people's bareness. And many times it happened to me that they wiped me out in those moments, they run away, in any kind of relationship, including business ones, even partnerships (oh my god, especially there). But, in those processes, I got to know myself well, and my own reactions and patterns of behavior, worked on myself, transformed myself, and that's why I can recognize other people's, that is yours, and help you with them. You can always count on challenges, especially in this kind of work, whether you're working on yourself or on a relationship. But what is mostly challenged and called out are our own neuroses and fears, not our entire existence and ego. Often in relationships, or when big changes happen, we think that our existence is threatened, ie the ego thinks so, and then many people tend to run away. In the relationships that we want to pave the way for here, our neurotic habits are especially challenged and can sometimes become poisonous, and they will not surrender so easily. The skill that is needed in conscious relationships is to train ourselves how to be present, both for ourselves and the other, and when it happens, when it's not comfortable, when it's too hot, without automatically running away from it. As I already mentioned, this is not for everyone, and this time it won't be easy for everyone. But, if you are someone who feels that you have the courage to step into your own depths and the depths of your partner, I invite you to a six-week long program and alchemical transformation of the wound between divine masculine and feminine energy, first of all in yourself, and in your relationships. We will work on relationship with self, relationship with partner, relationship with divine energies, and sacred relationship, creating space (and vessel) for the transformation you need. It is open to both men and women, and to those who are already in a partnership, but also to those who are not, because we are working on creating a space for one conscious (hopefully) relationship. Read a brief description of the program and details below, on the link to the Workshop page. You will receive a detailed description upon confirmation of your participation. For all instructions, registration and additional questions, write to me at terapijadusa@gmail.com

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Inspiration for text and workshop found in books The Magdalene Manuscript by Tom Kenyon & Judi Sion, and Soul Mates by Thomas Moore.